This stuff really works

I have been so engrossed in living life and living passionately that I haven’t sent out a newsletter in some time.  I want to share with you my own manifestation story to inspire you to follow your heart and your dreams.

Many of you know how much I love to paint.  Well it seemed the more energy I put into teaching my Law of Attraction courses, the more my art took off.  Applying all the techniques I teach is very powerful:  this stuff really works!  I have sold more paintings since November than I did the previous three years combined!

So as my art has taken off, I have been spending more time on my art and facilitating online programs rather than teaching the live courses that I love so much but that take so much time and energy.

It has meant so much to me to see my own dream of being an artist manifest.  I have always been a teacher.  That was easy for me.  But even though I have always been artistic, I had many doubts that I was an artist or could actually be a working artist.  l had lots of doubts along the way.

I think living my dream teaching Law of Attraction really helped me because as I teach the concepts and techniques, I am constantly reminded to practice what I teach.  It has always been important to me to live my own teachings as best I can.  How can i expect my students to do things if I’m not willing to be disciplined myself.

So it’s through this work, applying all that I know about LOA, that I have been able to manifest my artistic vision.  I am thrilled to say that this stuff really works!

So if you have a dream you’re trying to manifest, whether it be attracting the love of your life or anything else, I invite you to use the LOA techniques for 90 days and watch how your life begins to change. Keep going after the 90 days!  And of course that will be easy since you will be convinced at that point that this DOES work to change your reality.

I would invite you also to invest in one of my programs; this will give you many LOA secrets and tips to apply every day to speed up the process. If you invest in yourself and practice the techniques I teach in these programs, you will see shifts in your life as the universe shifts to correspond to the new you.

I am available for one-on-one coaching and my courses are all available online.  You can purchase the course by itself or along with coaching.   I would love to work with you and help you manifest your dreams, too.

Love and blessings to you all and thank you all for appreciating the work I do.   It is dear to my heart and so are you all!

Pamela

Loving Yourself–Warts and All

What does loving ourselves have to do with the Law of Attraction?  Everything, really, if we want love, success and happiness in our lives, it all starts with loving who we are.   This has been said so many times it has almost lost meaning for us.  But it is true that we must be able to find love within and for ourselves if we are to find love with another, have great relationships with our friends and family, and even to find ourselves in careers we love.  Everything really starts with loving who we are.

We have been so bombarded with media images of what’s sexy and attractive and what success means, that most of us at some level long to be something other than who we are.  We have been conditioned to see our imperfections and how we don’t measure up to the rich and famous.  This can become problematic when people secretly dislike themselves as they long for the perfect figure, perfect hair, perfect career, or perfect whatever.  Longing to be someone else or have a different life keeps us stuck where we are and unhappy.  Nothing positive can happen from this place.  However,  if we release all the desires to be someone else and love and accept who we are, we give ourselves the opportunity to blossom.

Acceptance and loving who we are allows us a safe environment for changing and growing.  We can’t change or grow from a negative, self loathing place or even a longing place.  We have to accept and love and then allow ourselves to become more of who we really are.  It’s like a child who is loved and nurtured can grow and blossom beautifully, but one who is constantly criticized and scolded shuts down and internalizes that anger and frustration at not being good enough.

As we struggle to love ourselves, it helps to grasp that it is our imperfections that make us perfect.  You are perfectly YOU, like no one else ever created.

I read an article about famous photographer who has photographed many of the world’s most famous beauties, including Marilyn Monroe and Sophia Loren.  He said that the most beautiful discovery he made when he photographed these beauties was realizing their imperfections.  That is what he would try to capture on film, their imperfections and vulnerability.  He did not try to give the illusion of perfection.  Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all learn to see our imperfections as our most beautiful parts!  What a concept.

My spiritual teacher Yogi Bhajan used to say, “The difference between you and me is that I love my faults.”  He said that we should not run from those parts of ourselves but learn to appreciate them.  It is only through acceptance and genuine appreciation that we can ever let go of something in ourselves that we wish to change.  As the adage states: “That which we resist persists.”  It is through appreciating all parts of ourselves that we can have total self love and thus really be open to loving another.  As another teacher of mine said once when I was studying acting, “The critic can never be creative.”  It’s good to remember that when we are busy criticizing ourselves, we are also stifling our creative energy, whether it’s energy for a project or for our lover or partner.

For the next week, try to find the beauty in your imperfections.  Try to find the parts of you that are flawed and see how they make you uniquely and perfectly you, vulnerable and beautiful.  See how loving these parts of yourself allow you to be a better lover and more accepting of your partner, your friends, everyone.  You may also notice how you become more attractive to others as you love and accept yourself.

I would love to hear from you about your struggle or your successes in this endeavor to love yourself, warts and all.   Leave a comment.

Have a wonderful week!

Pamela

Begin at the end

The end is where we start from. ~T.S. Eliot

A coach that I worked with a few years ago encouraged me to make a list of 25 things I had accomplished in the past year.  It was interesting that the first things that came to my mind were things I hadn’t finished or even started.  But as I got quiet and really thought about the year, many things I had accomplished began to surface.

I had finished a coaching program, designed my website, started my newsletter and gone on an amazing spiritual retreat with my husband.  Once I began to look at what I had accomplished, it was easy to see more.  I also had things on my list like, cultivating my friendships, taking sailing classes and chartering a sailboat in the Caribbean.  I realized that our accomplishments in life are about more than our to-do list.  Our accomplishments also include taking the time to love people and have fun.  Sometimes our most important accomplishments are those that were not on our goal list at the first of the year.  Life is much more organic and to experience it fully, we must we open to Divine Guidance.

Now, at the end of each year, I take the time to do this exercise.  Then I take the time to meditate on my vision for the coming year.  I try to imagine and feel those things I know I want to accomplish.  Then I let myself be open to that divine guidance, to see what might come to me that I hadn’t already been planning.  And finally as I begin to live the year, I let the Divine or whatever we want to call the creative energy that so magically orchestrates this universe, guide me so that ultimately, I am led by something greater than my own individual vision.  When we co-create with the Divine, our lives open up in ways that we might not have ever dreamed of on our own.

With all your final to-do lists for the holiday, find some time before the new year to make your list now of the 25 things you accomplished in 2012.  Acknowledge yourself for things big and small; sometimes our greatest accomplishments are all the small things that add up.   Then it will be time to start thinking about what the new year brings.

For me, I see myself continuing to evolve my live and online LOA and coaching programs.  And to evolve in my new (ad)venture with my husband of helping people through combining neurofeedback and LOA coaching.  For my art this year, my goal also is to paint a lot and from a deep and joyful place.

Happy Holidays everyone and I hope this year brings you all the love and joy your hearts can hold!

Love and blessings,

What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.
T. S. Eliot

 

Pamela

 

 

Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude

There is a lot of research being done out there on things like happiness and gratitude these days (thank goodness as they once only studied anxiety, depression, and all the other more negative states!)

Robert A. Emmons of the University of California, and Michael E. McCullough of University of Miami, conducted pioneering experiments at the University of Miami. They instructed people to keep a journal listing five things for which they felt grateful, like their spouse’s love, their child’s health, watching a sunset.  They just one sentence for each thing and they only wrote once a week.

What they discovered was after two months, the people keeping the gratitude journal were significantly happier and more optimistic than the control group, and they spent more time exercising and had fewer physical complaints.  Other research shows that people who cultivate an attitude of gratitude are happier, sleep better, are kinder toward others, and have more life satisfaction.

 

Gratitude is so important in Law of Attraction work because the fundamental concept is that our consciousness is the cause of our reality and not the other way around.  So we must always begin at the end.  We have to celebrate before the victory and feel gratitude before we receive whatever it is we want.

People who really live in gratitude see amazing things show up in their lives because they attract more things for which to be grateful simply by living from that place.  So gratitude is not something just for Thanksgiving.  It’s a way of being in the world: it’s living in a state of appreciation, and having a friendly, compassionate stance towards whatever shows up.
  Being in gratitude is a key to manifesting what we desire.  So often we wait for something great to show up in our lives and then we feel gratitude. But if we meet our desires with an open heart, peacefulness, and gratitude rather than a feeling of lack, we can attract to us all of our desires with effortless ease.

Let go of the need to tackle your desires to the ground or chase them around the world. Instead start from a place of true gratitude for all that you have already.  For example if you are desiring wonderful partnership, think about the partnerships you already have to feel grateful for, perhaps your co-workers, your parents, siblings or friends.  You also can be grateful for your partnership with the Field/the Divine.  Start with all that you have in form that resembles that which you desire.  This is truly the fastest route to manifesting.  Of course you must do it not to receive but because of the inner joy it brings you.

  Here are a few things you can do to cultivate an attitude of gratitude and reap the many benefits.

  • Keep a gratitude journal for the next two months…  Just write one sentence for each of five things for which you are grateful.
  • Take a released stance regarding anything you want in your life and meditate on feeling gratitude about already having received it.
  • Take time to write a long letter to someone you love about all the things you appreciate about them.  Then read it to them aloud.
  • Send cards to all the people who are important to you and tell them so.
  • Take time each morning when you awake to go through all the things that you are grateful for in your life.

Cultivating an attitude of gratitude is my goal for each day of my life.  I know that this one thing changes lives–it has changed mine dramatically.  If we all live from this place, we can change our households, our families, our communities and the world.  Join me starting today in making this a goal in your life and see where it takes you!  I know it will be a happier, healthier, more successful, peaceful and more joyful place.


Hope every one of you has a warm and wonderful Thanksgiving!

With love and gratitude,




Pamela

Living From Your Future Self

The new physics teaches that time and space are an illusion and that the future we desire already exists. This means that instead of trying to imagine what that future will be like from your present, you can actually travel to that future and experience it for real. NOW!

You can use the intending technique–which is about future causation–to ‘drop into your reality’ your desired dreams and visions which guarantees accelerated manifestation.

This has been one of the most profound techniques I have used.  It involves stepping into that future version of self that is already fulfilled in whatever way you’re wanting, and imagining what life is like there.  The insights that my students and myself have received while connecting to a desired future have gone beyond the limits of our present imagination or what we could have consciously contrived. The technique involves allowing information to arise organically during meditation so that that a real version of self emerges that fulfills your ideal version of self.

Once this is clear, simply step into that version of self, fall in love with that self.  Shift into a new reality in which you are that version already fulfilled.  And live from that place.

Ask yourself what kind of decisions that future version of yourself who has whatever you want in life make? How would this you think, feel and be? What solutions would they find? What successes would they have achieved?  What challenges would they have overcome? And so on.  You can see that if you live from the future version of yourself, you will have to know these answers and more importantly live them.

Practice stepping into your future on a regular basis. Hold a ‘future perspective when making decisions, setting goals or dealing with challenges.  Make decisions from that version of yourself as much as possible.

For example:  Imagine that you are feeling like you are not ready for that big promotion at the office. But when you step into the future you, you are in that position and performing well, earning more money and feeling much more empowered and fulfilled in your career.  So decisions you make at your job from this moment on should be from that place.  How would the YOU who is in that position behave?  Would you stay a little late?  Help others achieve their goals?  Be more invested in the outcome of the company’s goals.  Be that version and watch as you become promoted or move on to a company–or start your own–that allows that version of you to exist now.

What would that future you – the healed, empowered, loving, successful self that you are becoming – think, feel and be? Connect to that future and allow it to have voice in your world today, in the thoughts, feelings and actions you choose.

Have a wonderful amazing week!

Here’s to all your best intentions!

Pamela

Learning to Trust Yourself & Your Inner Voice

In my Law of Attraction courses, I teach a lot about learning to trust that everything is on track for our receiving what we most want.   The secret to mastering trust in the unfolding of our lives comes from learning to trust ourselves.  To learn to trust ourselves, we have to have a practice that allows us to tune in, to quiet our mind enough so that we can actually hear our inner guidance.   After we hear it, then we must trust what we receive. When we disregard that voice inside that knows, we are not trusting ourselves.

I see it so often in my work: people know but they don’t listen. They ask, “Should I marry this man?  I’m just not sure.”  Or “Should I take this job?” The answer is in the asking.  There must be a voice saying, “no”, or they wouldn’t be questioning moving forward in the relationship or the job.  If we are saying YES to a partner, it should be a resounding yes that we say with all our heart and soul, not a “yes” tinged with hesitancy that is really a “no” that we won’t allow ourselves to acknowledge.

There is always that little voice inside you that knows.  When we get in confusion about anything, it’s because we are not tuned into that voice.  Sometimes it’s just that we really don’t want to acknowledge the truth that we know.  This is the denial of our inner voice.   Other times it may be that we just won’t be quiet enough to hear it.  

Our sixth sense is real, and can naturally perceive and know things that our logical minds cannot.  It is that aspect of your soul that is connected to the Field, the Divine, that is privy to all sorts of information and resources that you in your particle self are not.  This voice will guide you to your heart’s desire, it will forewarn you, but you can only hear it if you are taking the time to listen.

The key is to practice meditation or quiet reflective time daily to tune into that guidance on a regular basis and then listen to it every time.  Using a heart meditation is very effective since being in our heart makes us more connected and more open to receive guidance.  The more you practice meditation and/or quiet reflection, the easier it will be to tune in and receive guidance not just while you’re in meditation but all the time.  And the more you learn to trust your inner voice and guidance, the clearer the messages from your intuitive self become.

A SIMPLE HEART MEDITATION YOU CAN USE TO OPEN YOUR HEART:

As you sit to meditate focus on the breath.  Inhale and exhale deeply for a few breaths. Allow your shoulders to relax away from your ears.  Relax your jaw and your tongue.  Start to breathe imagining the breath coming in through the third chakra, located at the upper abdomen (solar plexus) and feel any tension there.  Exhale, imagining the breath coming out through the heart chakra–located in the center of the breast bone–opening the heart.

Keep that focus on the breath, inhaling each time feeling any tension in your third chakra and on the exhale, releasing the tension and imagining the heart chakra opening more and more with each exhale.

As you do this meditation you should be able to open your heart and get into a state of love and compassion.  Once you’re in this state, allow answers and guidance to emerge naturally.  You may, if you wish, begin your meditation by asking for guidance if there is something specific you are wanting to be clear about.

In my own life, I was guided to my husband, the love of my life, because I asked, “What’s next?” when I was closing my business years ago.  The answer was “medical sales,” something I had no background in at all.  But I knew to listen to the guidance and went onto Career Builder, applied for four jobs, interviewed with three, got job offers from two, one of which was my husband, who knew immediately I was the love of his life.  We had only had one phone conversation and he knew that he had to hire me.  His assistant tried to get him to consider the many applicants with medical background.  But he interviewed no one else for the position.  He was attuned and listening to his inner guidance too.

Within two months of working together, we were together!   It was not about “the job” as I only did that for a short time before I began my coaching training.  It was about the Divine leading both of us to each other.

You will be astounded at how powerful it is and what you can manifest with effortless effort when you live this way.  It is this connection with our own heart and to the Divine that truly allows us to listen and hear our inner voice and guidance.  If you regularly sit with this simple meditation, you will become attuned to all sorts of information that you would otherwise miss.  You will at times not know exactly why you have to go to a particular place or avoid a particular person. You will just know.  When we live attuned to our inner voice and trusting our inner guidance, everything becomes easier.  We can more easily attract what we need into our lives and live with more peace and joy.  We stay out of confusion and indecisiveness because we know how to tune in and listen.

My challenge for you is to do this heart meditation every day for a month and watch your connection to your own inner guidance increase.  Watch as you begin to trust your own inner voice more and more.  I guarantee you won’t want to stop after 30 days.

The Field really is on our side; all we have to do is tune in and listen!

Have a wonderful amazing week!

Love and blessings,
Pamela

Create Properity and Abundance RIght Now

Years ago, I thought I had to be a job working for someone else with no freedom or flexibility in order to be prosperous.  For several years I had a job–a very stressful job–that  I hated.  I continued only because it paid well.  I may have made big paychecks, but it led to a lot of stress and unhappiness.  I would cry at my desk almost daily and think “I can’t do this another minute.”  I felt as though the job was killing my soul.

Finally, I decided to focus on what I loved to do: teaching, coaching and my art rather than focusing on making money.   I found that what I thought I needed to do to make money was an illusion.  Now, money seems to flow into my life doing what I love to do.  I don’t make a big deal over the numbers these days, whereas before I was always measuring my success by the money I brought in each month.  Now, I measure my success by my happiness and enjoyment of life and in doing what I love, helping others in their personal journeys and transformation.

Wanting and craving more money does not invites abundance.  The Law of Attraction tells us that when we are in a state of worry and lack, we are going to attract more of the same.  Thus we have to release our fears around not making enough money and the fear of being poor.   Can you let go of your fear of and resistance to not making enough money?  Can you imagine that you would still enjoy your life even if you did go broke and did not have enough money to pay your bills?  If you can accept that it’s not the money that’s going to control your happiness quotient, you will then be able to attract more abundance into your life.  The Field does not respond favorably to lack and neediness in any form.  Just as people looking for partnership turn others off if they are too needy, so can we turn prosperity off in our lives if we are clenching to every dollar and feeling stressed that there may not be enough.

Begin today to change the way you relate to and think about prosperity and abundance. Create more and more ways to feel prosperous and abundant in your life. Relax around money rather than clenching and clawing for every dollar.   Release your fears around money and know that there will always be enough.  Feel it in your bones that your happiness is not dependent on how much money you make or save or owe.

True abundance should be measured by all the wonderful moments in your life not by the number in your bank account.  Take the time to be in gratitude for all the ways that you are prosperous; feeling prosperous as often as you can will bring more prosperity and abundance into your life than you can imagine.  So take the time to create prosperity and abundance right now!   How?  Simply take the time to create more opportunities to feel abundance every day.  Appreciate the simple pleasures in life more and equate them with abundance.  Feel a sense of prosperity as you spend fun times your friends or enjoy a romantic evening with your partner.  Feel the abundance in your life as you share a delicious meal with your family, spend fun times with your friends, or receive a sweet hug from a child. 

As we feel more abundant and happy in our lives and don’t let any number in our bank account rob us of that, we attract more abundance in all its forms.

Try to release any fear around money now and focus your attention on all the ways that you truly are prosperous.  Then watch as the abundance begins to flow more and more in your life.